For this article, we got a real Sugar Baby who uses our website to tell us about her real-life experience with the Sugar Lifestyle. We hope our readers will find her stories helpful!
There were several factors that lead me to this lifestyle. At the beginning a big part of it was that I felt really curious. I made my profile way before I started really pursuing it, just to get my feet wet, I guess. I finally worked up my courage to meet a few of the men I’d chatted with. None of them were a great fit, though.
Once I legit committed to doing it, it was for a lot of reasons. It was just after I moved across the country and I’d broken up with my boyfriend. I was attracted to the idea of being with someone older who could be a provider.
It took four years of thinking about it for me to actually do it. I think it was the year I was 22. You know, a lot of girls use their youth and good looks and seduction to get what they want out of men. Even if not everyone will admit, it’s a natural thing to do. I mean, I’ve hooked up with guys I wasn’t attracted to for free just because I felt sorry for them or I was bored. I regret that, but I don’t regret it when I’m getting something out of it.
Oh god, I was so scared! Not like scared of getting murdered or kidnapped, just like terrified by the concept of sitting there with someone I don’t know and not knowing what to talk about. I was just so afraid it would be awkward. First dates are always awkward, but with older men, a lot of the common ground is taking away so there’s even less to say if there’s a big silence.
I made sure my roommate and my best friend both knew where I was going and who I was meeting for safety. And met in a public place of course. I usually pick a coffee shop for the first date.
But yeah, it was pretty okay. There weren’t any fireworks or anything and I wasn’t feeling it enough for a second date, but he was a decently good-looking guy and I ended up being to make conversation better than I expected. He just wasn’t my type.
Sex tends to be expected, but I wouldn’t say obligatory. If either one of isn’t feeling it of course you can decline. But most guys do want that, sort of in exchange for the money and time. That’s the beneficial part on their end.
Like all relationships, arrangements are different from guy to guy. Occasionally you’ll meet someone in it who’s really only in it to sleep with you, and if you’re down, go for it. Some guys only want sex on rare occasions or even never at all. But I’d honestly say that on average, most men I meet are equally interested in sex and companionship. They want sparks to fly in the bedroom, but they care just as much about having an interesting conversation over dinner.
No way! Most of the time, the sex is actually amazing. There’s a lot to be said for experience and, gosh, older guys really know what they’re doing. I find older guys care more for their partner than guys my own age. I don’t think I can think of a single guy my age I’ve dated who puts my enjoyment over their own, but Sugar Daddies are all about that. I guess the whole idea of these arrangements is that the men truly value their partners. And I think that’s a really awesome part of it.
Oh, that’s a hard one. I don’t think I can name a favorite. Allowances are typical, but so great. It’s awesome to have a lump sum of cash you can count on. One man offered me a company car and a company expense card. That was crazy. I’ve been flown to countless cities in the US and a couple of times to Europe for vacations. I particularly like the nice restaurant – we went to a five-star one where I never could have gotten reservations otherwise. Spa days, shopping trips… the list goes on.
I’ve made friends through this and that’s something I really value. I’m still friends with a couple of former Sugar Daddies, but mostly what comes to mind would be the relationships I have with people I met through them. Most of those friend don’t have any idea how we met, and I always feel a little sneaky keeping it from them. But, yeah, it makes me happy and I’ve made a lot of friends so it’s certainly emotionally beneficial.
No. No one I’ve met on Sugar sites has been any weirder or creepier than anyone else in life. I mean, there are people who give off weird vibes but it’s not so much that they’re possessive or anything like that, just ones I don’t personally click with. It’s just people. No more freaks than in any other kind of dating.
The worst thing, in my opinion, is the stigma. There’s a lot of judgement surrounding the terms “Sugar Baby” and “Sugar Daddy.” I want people to know that I’m doing this as a choice and it brings me joy. It’s not this huge bad creepy thing. And I hate the association with prostitution. I get it and it makes sense, but it makes me uncomfortable because that’s not how I think of my arrangements at all.
Absolutely! This is so much fun for me and I’ve had so many great experiences and opportunities that I wouldn’t have had otherwise. Some girls might end up regretting it if they choose this lifestyle, but for me it’s a great fit. I think that as long as you keep an open mind and do your research, it’s an awesome gig. I don’t think anybody should rule it out without giving it some serious consideration because it has opened so many doors for me and a lot of other girls too.
Not forever. I want to get married eventually to someone my own age and be really in love and have kids. This is the fun, crazy, daring phase of my life. I get to use my looks to seduce men and let them treat me like a princess. I think ultimately this is a learning experience for me. It has taught me to keep my mind open and to never say never.
First and foremost, be careful and stay safe. I never go out without telling someone all the details about where I’ll be, with whom, and when. I update that go-to person if plans change and I know they’ll look out for me and make sure I’m accounted for.
I would also tell ladies to value themselves. Don’t settle for less than the best and always know that you are worth more than all the money in the world.
Lastly, keep your day job. Being a Sugar Baby is not a job, it’s all fun and games and should only be a supplement to your real income.