One question on every Sugar Baby’s mind is: Should I be the first one to message a potential Sugar Daddy I’ve got my eye on? According to recent surveys, the answer is yes, you definitely should.
This might feel wrong as it goes against the traditional rules for dating, and you’ve probably always heard that the guy should make the first move. But Sugar Daddy websites aren’t for traditional courtship, so you get to make your own rules. Do what feels exciting for you. If messaging a Sugar Daddy gets your heart pumping faster, all the more reason to do it! The Sugar lifestyle is not for the shy and reserved girls. To hook the right Sugar Daddy, you have to stand out from the crowd and show him why you’re someone he wants to pamper. So take that plunge. Here’s more information about how to message a Sugar Daddy first and why.
There are so many fish in the sea for a Sugar Daddy to choose from. Experts estimate that there are eight to twelve aspiring Sugar Babies for every one Sugar Daddy. That means, Sugar Daddies have to sort through a crazy amount of profiles to find the candidates they’re interested in. He couldn’t be a Sugar Daddy if he weren’t successful, and successful usually means BUSY. Make it easy for him! Save him some work! Express you interest so you won’t be just another face in the crowd.
He might be looking for certain attributes. Like maybe he’s super attracted to brunettes with perfectly sculpted brows! Or maybe he’s looking for girls in New York City only so he doesn’t have to travel. He can use the filters built into dating sites to narrow down his search and only see the candidates that meet his specifications. Sometimes, however, the filter functions can make him accidently rule out the perfect girl because she’s in Brooklyn and he only searched for girls located in Manhattan. It’s easy to prevent this from happening. All you have to do is send a message to ensure you don’t get accidentally ruled out in a preliminary search.
If you don’t spend all your time in one place, it’s a good idea to check for Sugar Daddies in the places you travel to, or even in places where you would consider moving one day.
Let’s say you live in Florida, but you go to California for modelling gigs all the time. Since your location is listed as Florida, there is almost no way the perfect Sugar Daddy you have been eyeing in Cali will every find you if you don’t make the first move. If you don’t want to change your official location to California, you have to say hi! Tell him you exist!
Okay, so I’ve convinced you to send the first message. But now the question is, what should it say? It takes certain skill to write the perfect first message. How do you find the right balance between necessary info and alluring mystery? Here are some tips to help you out.
No need to overwhelm him. You don’t want to come on too strong. A good first message is like a good skirt: long enough to cover the subject, but short enough to keep things interesting.
The first message is no place to talk of finances. The time for dollar signs and numbers is way down the road.
Use your best grammar, because you can never make a second first impression. Show off your manners and your intelligence.
It just takes a few details to show you’ve done your homework. Give his profile a quick read so you can offhandedly mention a shared interest. You don’t want it to look like you send the same message to every Sugar Daddy whose profile interests you.
It’s a good (and satisfyingly sneaky!) way to get him talking.
Just something little and flirty. It’ll make him feel special.
This proves to him that you are really interested. Even more importantly, it gives him the perfect opening to message you back and get things going.
Here’s an example: Let’s say his profile picture is in front of his Audi supercar. You can say something like, “I see you have good taste in cars. I’ve always imagined taking a car like that on a spin down the coast.” Adding something like this tells him that you’re an attentive Sugar Baby with a genuine interest in him. It’s not just another “heyyy” in his inbox. The right first message ignites the flame of interest, which hopefully will turn into a fiery relationship.
Even if he’s looking for that brunette with the perfectly sculpted eyebrows, maybe, just maybe, your message will inspire him to fall for your long blonde curls and blue eyes instead.
Whatever you do, don’t forget that the Sugar lifestyle sometimes plays by different rules from old-school dating. Sugar Babies have to learn to be a little more forward than most girls in order to get what they want. Introduce yourself with confidence and see what happens.