When to discuss allowance with sugar daddy?

There comes a moment in every sugar relationship that most sugar babies quietly dread: the discussion of allowance. Most sugar babies worry about everything from coming off too greedy and scaring off the potential sugar daddy to how much she can reasonably expect given her looks, age, personality, etc.

But whento discuss allowance with sugar daddies? What is the best time? Many sugar daddy and sugar babies have different approaches.

You're going to have to do some trial and error to see what works best for you. All of us here have different approaches. The one golden rule that we all agree on: have the allowance worked out BEFORE you show up for the first intimate date.

Talk aobut allowance before the date

Some sugar babies choose discuss allowance before the meet. It allows both the sugar daddies and babies to know you're on the same page, and just enjoy the date. Or, if you're not on the same page, you find out before you both waste time going to the M&G.

What sugar daddies think of it: before the M&G, I really don't even know you. I'm okay with discussing allowance before the M&G, but given that I really don't even know what you look like, I never give a high offer if the SB wants to discuss before the M&G. No way am I committing to a high offer before we meet, so you'll get the lower end of the range from me.

Some people prefer to discuss allowance at date (usually at the end)

Advantages: This allows a face-to-face, human touch while negotiating. Some people prefer it that way. Also, unlike discussing it before the M&G, you've at least met each other, so an SD at least has some idea of how awesome you are.

This is by far my least favorite, and if you want me to be discussing allowance while annoyed, this is the way to do it. The M&G should be 100% about building chemistry & attraction; nothing worse than someone destroying the vibe with an awkward allowance conversation.

Discuss allowance after the date

Advantages:This allows you both to just enjoy the M&G and see how much real chemistry and attraction there is, without grinding it to a screeching halt with an allowance discussion. And the SD knows exactly how great you are.

Downside: you might go to the M&G, spen some hours together, and only then find out you're not on the same page for allowance.

My take: this is by far my favorite way to go -- and the one and only way an SB will get my higher offers. She concentrates on getting me to crush on her at the M&G, and then I can't get her out of my head for the next couple of days, that's when I offer the higher end of my range.

Conclusion: Bring it up whenever you'd like

In reality, I feel it's the SB's prerogative to decide when we'll discuss allowance. Even though I don't love it before or especially during the M&G, if that's what she's comfortable with, that's when we'll discuss it. It's post-M&G for you, bring it up whenever you'd like!

Sugar baby experience: When to discuss allowance

As a SB I also feel more comfortable discussing after the first M&G, it helps me to know what kind of figure I would like from them as each man is different. for example I would lowball my figure for a guy that I genuinely am attracted to and have a high level of chemistry with (some may disagree with this concept).

And I hike my price up for a guy that is super into me but the feeling isn’t as mutual and would take a bit more for me to warm up to him. The difference in rates for me is how much emotional energy am I going to have to spend on this guy.

Also, another reason for me is I get to see what type of guy he is and I play it accordingly, for example I had a M&G with a business guy who was into importing/exporting, he was super into me and seemed keen to get an arrangement going, I knew no matter what figure I gave him he would negotiate it with me, I put out my top end figure and sure enough he suggested something a bit lower.

I agreed with his offer. After the first date he proceeded to give me even less than what he himself suggested in the first place. First mistake I made - thinking I could deal with a guy like him knowing he would try lowball me, secondly not insisting on receiving payment at the start of the date. I have moved on and learnt from my lessons.

I talk numbers before the M&G. It’s less awkward and it allows no time for miscommunication. It saves both people time when discussed before.

If I want to move forward, I do it at the end of the M&G. I think it's best to wait until after you meet in person, when he (hopefully) will be hooked on the idea of spending time with you. Although the downside is that you may waste time and find out you're not even in the same range.

Some sugar babies may suggest you discuss allowance after a number of platonic dates

Many experienced sugar babies may suggest newbies to "taking it slow" for the sugar bowl and having a few platonic dates before intimacy & allowance.

But newbies may just wondering what best practices are for when to discuss allowance & expectations. When exactly. No real right or wrong answer. You have to feel it out and decide when is best to bring it up.

The allowance discussion timing and the number of platonic dates vary depending upon many factors. There is not a speed limit. Many happen the same time as the M&G, others the next time, and so forth. It depends on a few things. Usually the woman’s comfort level with the chemistry determines the speed.

There is not a magic number of times that will tell you if you are a good match and feel safe. There are women who are trying to be vanilla in their relationship development, but We are not sure we should consider them to be in Sugarland.

Occasionally you will find a guy that is afraid of making a mistake and he will go really slow too. Also, beginners seem to take longer to get comfortable than an experienced person. But then that experienced person has peppered the pot with tons of questions to make a better determination before meeting. Go at the speed you feel comfortable and don’t let anyone rush you. Be brave, be ready. Then when you have made up your mind to commit, discussion of boundaries and allowance can take place. Some will do one before the other. There is no ‘right way’.

Sometimes, you may discuss allowance before meeting and other times you will wait a few dates. It depends on how you think the sugar daddy will respond and whether Iyou think there is value in letting him get to know (and love) you before making an ask. If you aren’t sure, set a “no later than” limit for talking about it and if he doesn’t bring it up by then, you do it.

I took things very slow with my SD. On the first date, we went for drinks and he made it clear that he was more than willing to help me out in return for a casual, relaxed relationship. Great. On our second date, to dinner, we discussed numbers. Cool. On our third date, a hike, he told me he would start sending my allowance the next month. So it took about a month to get my allowance, but I had a wonderful time and we didn’t do anything but kiss. No PPM, straight to monthly.

Taking it slow is a great way to get a long-term, stable partner. As long as you aren’t compromising yourself or your standards, it’s well worth to wait for an allowance. But if you’re desperate for cash... perhaps not the best route to take.

I am new too and I don’t know what’s the best way. So far I only had two meet and greet.

1. He was as naive as I was about this lifestyle. We never actually had conversations on allowance and everything and at that time my understanding was we can have that discussion if we have that spark after meet n greet. I did try to talk to him to know if our numbers are close. He sent me xx$ and changed the topic. Now I feel the approach wad wrong.

2. We spoke couple of days. We discussed numbers on hypothetical basis so that we both knew what we might be getting. Meet and greet no expectations. Although he did tell me the modes of transaction, that’s cash in until My trust score is high( today in first M&G) Next time I’m gonna get my allowance.

So you know choice is yours!

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